Sometimes you don’t have any relationship questions/problems, but you still want to SHARE. If you have a funny story about a bad first date, a psycho boss, or an unstable roommate, feel free to post it below.
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Do you think it is better to be roommates with people who you are best friends with, or to live with people who you may be friends with, but you’re not that close. Do you think more interpersonal conflict would arise from being roommates with best friends?
Do not live with your friends if you can avoid it. Especially if your friend has an odd habit or if you are picky about cleanliness or privacy. Friendships are nonexclusive, voluntary relationships. Friends can walk away from the friendship at any time. And, the only obligations that exist in friendship are those that are negotiated between/among the friends. People think that “true” friendships are forever or that everybody has the same idea about what it takes to be a good friend. Not true at all. As a result, the closeness of any living situation can turn small disagreements into relationship terminating fights.
What is the difference between telling a secret and gossip?
Good question, Just curious. Most people think of gossip as telling something bad about another person. But that’s not necessarily true–you can gossip about good news as well. Both are violations of privacy, and both can result in feelings of betrayal. The main difference between the two is the teller’s right to share that information. Secrets are negotiated. X tells Y information while establishing terms for any subsequent telling of that information. No such agreement exists for gossip. Thus, A may be upset with B if she discovers that B is gossiping about her. But, X will be more angry with Y for telling the secret because both agreed that the information would not be shared.